If you are feeling sad at this moment-or have been experiencing a down mood for a while-look honestly at your situation. Some kinds, however, can be a cause for concern.
It's perfectly normal to have sadness in your life. But there are concrete ways to cope with sadness and gain control over it: The only reason to deny your sadness is if you feel that you can't do anything about it. Being realistic means that you drop the main defense that all of us are tempted to employ: denial. Instead of positivity, what's needed is reality. Keeping up a good front is important in most people's lives, yet behind the facade can lurk a good deal of fear. We wait for sadness to pass and we behave as if nothing bad is going on. We distract ourselves by watching more television or spending more hours on the computer. Further, what usually happens is that most of us become passive. Everyone's existence contains challenges, disappointments, frustration and failed expectations. One of the pitfalls of positivity is that people tend to fantasize about a perfect life instead of realistically facing the fact that no life is perfect. Just telling yourself to "be positive" isn't much help, because moods can have a life of their own. Yet sometimes this simply isn't possible, and people find themselves facing temporary or long-term sadness. We live in a society where a high value is placed on being positive.
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